“When we focus on our discontent, we are likely to blame any who have contributed to it. In contrast, when we focus on someone else’s pains, we are more likely to have compassion. Do you feel compassion for your partner’s difficulties and disappointments?” (H. Wallace Goddard)
It is easy to think about our own pain and long-suffering we endure from our spouse during our marriage. However, it would be wise to put ourselves in their shoes and try to understand their suffering and patience with us. We are not as perfect as we might think. When we are humble and realize our own faults then it is easier for us to change and not look to blame our spouse for all our problems. If we cannot feel compassion for our spouse we should re-evaluate our priorities and make sure their happiness and well being comes before ours. They will appreciate us for putting them first and in like manner we will enrich our marriage.
Fighting For a Happy Marriage 